Tell me how it should be

Suzanne Grotenhuis and Freek Vielen are together theater company De Nwe Tijd and have been friends for more than 20 years. For this performance, they dive into their personal history and stand on stage together with a backpack full of old pain and good memories. "What if we decide to stay together? What if we radically choose not to retreat into our own rightness, but to keep looking for what binds us?" Two friends can no longer be with, but also not without each other. In an ultimate attempt to save their friendship, they go in search of the origin of their struggles and ways to overcome them. Or at least to understand them. Because how is it that you can clash so hard with someone you actually love so much? How far do you have to step out of your own comfort zone to understand the other? And do you even want to? 'Zeg me hoe het moet' is a funny, uncomfortable, and intense search for connection and sincerity. For all friends who don't understand why they sometimes can't stand each other, for all children who no longer speak to their parents, for all couples who doubt between breaking up or continuing to look for ways to go on together. From and with Suzanne Grotenhuis and Freek Vielen | Dramaturgy, text contribution, and final direction Wannes Gyselinck | Artistic advice Lineke Rijxman | Muziek Hendrik Lasure | Decor and light Czeslaw de Wijs | Licht Emilie Poelmans | Techniek Tim van der Linden | Technical support Sander Salden | Coproductie Perpodium Met the support of the Flemish government and the tax shelter of the Belgische Federale Overheid via BNP PFFF | Thanks to Debby Coussement, Sabina Kumeling, Lore Meesters, Laura Mentink, Lin Petersen, Roel Swanenberg, c o r s o, DE HOE, hetpaleis Press "Duality at its best (...) A witty and moving duet about the (im)possibility of connection between two people/makers who call themselves friends." - Recensie van Wouter Hillaert in PZAZZ, December 29, 2025 "Because for some things and people you want to bridge the gap every time" - Recensie van Mireille de Vreeze in Theaterparadijs "The friendship research of Freek Vielen and Suzanne Grotenhuis is pure theater pleasure" - Recensie van Tuur Devens in Theaterkrant, December 10, 2025 "Just keep talking" - Interview with Suzanne Grotenhuis in Knack (Nov 2025) by Els Van Steenberghe